Lighting the Marriage Candle

Congratulations on your engagement!

This is an exciting time. In asking to be married in a church, or by a priest, you are asking for the Sacrament of Marriage in which you seek God’s blessing on and help in your future life together as a married couple; you seek to make your marriage vows before God; and you commit yourselves to living a life which is pleasing to God.

The most obvious information about being married at St Thomas' is listed below, but if you have any questions you want to ask, don’t hesitate to ask Canon Katherine Bowyer (02) 4954 8550 or



Whilst marriage is a joyful occasion, it is also a serious occasion not to be taken lightly. Part of our requirements in the parish is that you are prepared for marriage. Usually we will meet together four times before the wedding day. This gives us time  to discuss any questions you might have, and to get to know each other. If you have any questions or concerns, please don’t hesitate to contact Canon Katherine.

Legal Requirements

The celebrant will need to sight both your birth certificates, and photo identification. Legal requirements require the original, full birth certificate, not an extract. If you have been previously married, the celebrant will also need to see the original Decree Absolute or Certificate of Divorce.

Order of Service, Music and Decorations

As part of our marriage preparation sessions, we'll discuss music, the order of service and decorations for the church. Some vases of fresh flowers in the church are included in the cost.

One of the customs we often embrace is the lighting of the wedding candle, where the two people jointly light a new candle, to celebrate the light of this coming together, and then take that candle with them to light on special occasions in the years ahead (often anniversaries).


In 2016, the all-inclusive fee for your marriage at St Thomas' is $650.

We also offer catering packages in our church hall for your reception. Please contact us to discuss options.